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How Can You Deal with Family Issues as a Caregiver?

Being a caregiver often means that you’re going to have to face up to some often dicey family situations. Other family members might want to have their own say in your senior’s care or they may simply want to help. Regardless, you’re going to need to manage these issues in a way that works for everyone.

Elder Care in Oakmont CA: Dealing with Family Conflict

Elder Care in Oakmont CA: Dealing with Family Conflict

Determine Who Is in Charge of What.

Every family member likely has a specific set of skills that can help them to be more adept at one aspect or another of caregiving. Some family members may also live much farther away than others, which can have a big impact on how much they can help. So it’s entirely possible that one family member is the primary family caregiver while other family members handle finances, research, or other aspects of caring for your elderly family member.

Figure out a Way to Keep Everyone Informed.

With different people handling different aspects of your senior’s care, it helps to have a way to keep everyone informed about what is going on. Regular family meetings, even done as a conference call, can help quite a bit. A group text or a group email can also be a way to keep everyone advised about what is going on. Ultimately, it’s whatever works for you and for the other family members involved.

Look for Ways to Compromise.

Some families are a little complex. Either everyone wants to be in charge or no one wants to be. It’s also possible that some family members resent one person being the primary caregiver. You can find ways to compromise in those situations, such as hiring elder care providers to be in charge of day-to-day caregiving needs while the rest of you sort out other duties.

Learn When to Let Go of Certain Issues.

At some point, you may run into issues that your other family members don’t want to compromise about. You may find that your solution at that point is simply to let that particular issue go, if you can. Likewise, there may be some instances in which your other family members are going to need to allow you to have a final say. This is part of the give and take of multiple family members being involved in your senior’s caregiving journey.

Caregiving along with other family members is a complex situation. It helps if everyone tries to remember that you’re all there to make life easier for your aging adult. All other issues and problems can hopefully be resolved if everyone is focused on that one goal.

If you or an aging loved one are considering elder care in Oakmont, CA, call At Your Service Home Care.  Call today! (707) 573-1003

Lucy Andrews DNP, RN, MS

In 1988, after working as a clinical nurse in the University Health System at UC San Francisco, Lucy Andrews started understanding home care.

She became a discharge planner and immediately fell in love with the concept of home care and the autonomous clinical practice it affords nurses. Dr. Lucy was hooked and has been a strong supporter of home care ever since.Believing people need advocates in healthcare systems, she has championed that cause across the acute care and post-acute care setting.

Dr. Lucy has worked in every aspect of home care from Medicare Certified, DME, Infusion, Hospice and finally Private Duty/Private Pay services. She also works as a home care consultant across the country and as a legal nurse consultant for the home care industry.

Having worked in all areas of home care, Dr. Lucy has a well-rounded perspective of the challenges facing patients, families and the home care industry, and as a provider she advocates for patients through the maze of health care services. Dr. Lucy celebrated over 37 years as a nurse and patient advocate.

Dr. Lucy has a Baccalaureate Degree in Nursing from Lewis University, Romeoville, Illinois.In 1994, she received her Masters of Science in Health Service Administration from St. Mary's University, Moraga, California. Dr. Lucy received her Doctor of Nursing Practice awarded in 2016, graduating with Distinction and a 4.0 GPA.

She did her doctoral work on the global dementia crisis, aging and prevention strategies for healthy living. Developed dementia and Alzheimer's disease plans for aging patients leaving the hospital setting or entering long-term care or home health and hospice environments. She also developed a specialized program for those at risk for dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.

In 1992, Dr. Lucy was designated CAHSAH Certified Home Care Administrator in the inaugural offering of this designation through the California Association for Health Services at Home (CAHSAH).

She is the founder and CEO of Creative Solutions Home Care Consulting Services and At Your Service Nursing & Home Care, a concierge nursing & home care agency that provides the services she believes are essential for seniors to age in place.She offers a higher level of care allowing people to be in their own homes with an emphasis on independence, safety, and quality of life.

Dr. Lucy is the Vice Chair of the Board of Directors for the National Association for Home Care and Hospice (NAHC) and sits on the Board of Directors for California Association for Health Services at Home (CAHSAH).

She has served on the boards for both state and national board associations, and is currently on the following boards and committees: Board of Directors, California State Association for Health Services at Home (CAHSAH), 2002-present, National Association for Home Care and Hospice (NAHC's) Private Duty Home Care Association Director, and multiple state and national home care committees.

Dr. Lucy goes to Washington, DC, several times a year to advocate for senior services and home care issues. She was past Commissioner for the Sonoma Commission on Human Rights.She is past chair of the local Senior Advocacy Services.

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